GOD’S REMINDER: Let angry people endure the backlash of their own anger; if you try to make it better, you’ll only make it worse. (Proverbs 19:17 MSG)
NOTE TO SELF: A very dear friend of mine is going through a rough breakup. His ex-girlfriend’s friend has even engaged in screaming matches with him, insisting that he just leave his ex-girlfriend alone.
My friend is one of the gentlest, most kindest and loving men I’ve ever known. He is now fearful that her friend is manipulating her to see him as the enemy, rather than the loyal and loving person he’s always been to her.
As friends, we tend to forget to be honest to them. We jump on their anger bandwagon instead of speaking the truth. In our efforts to be a friend, instead of being loyal we agree with their misinterpretations and frustrations. We think that we’ll make them feel better through these means of “support.” But it only makes matters worse.
Instead of feeding their anger, we need to remind them of reality. Anger shields our vision from truth. It digs deep into us and begs us to find excuses to keep lashing out. It betrays us in so many ways.
As friends, we shouldn’t try to make things better, instead we need to be honest and encourage them in truth. As this girl’s friend thinks she’s doing the right thing, she is really making matters worse, not just for her friend, but for mine, and their possible future. If my friend’s ex-girlfriend wants to remain in her anger, then she must endure the backlash, which would ultimately end a very great relationship. But if she wants to be truly happy in life, then she must realize that anger, right now, is her worse enemy who will do anything to keep her from the love she rightly deserves.
Anger is a thief of love.