GOD’S REMINDER: “Abram said to Lot, ‘Let’s not have fighting between us…after all, we’re family. Look around. Isn't there plenty of land out there? Let's separate. If you go left, I'll go right; if you go right, I'll go left.’’’ (Genesis 13:8)
NOTE TO SELF: Family squabbles are inevitable, but when they are persistent and harmful, it may be time to part ways; to say, “If you go left, I’ll go right; if you go right, I’ll go left” (v. 9). Meaning, I won’t continue in this mess. I love you too much to keep going on like this. We’re family, after all.
Lot and Abram parted ways that day, but keep reading and you’ll find out that Abram came to Lot’s rescue twice after his departure (Gen. 14:14 and 18:23).
I was recently asked by my brother-in-law that I “remove him” from my life completely. My love for him and my desire to bring him back to his spiritual calling was too much for him to handle. I did honor his request. I felt it was for the best for both of us. Had I continued on with him, I would have only ended up angry and frustrated, and he would have undoubtedly said some awful things to me that he would never be able to take back.
This isn’t the first time this has happened between us. The last time he did get vicious and I was deeply wounded. However, when he found himself in a very bad situation, I was the first one to offer him assistance.
Love is a curious thing between family members. And when it becomes dangerously destructive to our emotional well being, it’s often best to part ways and love from a distance and in prayer.