Scripture to reflect upon: 2 Corinthians 7:10
Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death.
For quite some time I’ve been thinking about the word, “but.” Several weeks ago I wrote in my journal, “There are no buts in repentance.” When we repent to God we shouldn’t end it with a statement like, “But God…”
This weekend at church, Pastor Kevin gave a great message on the renewal of our mind and taking the Word for its word. He expanded on that idea with the example of many people who believe in God, believe in the bible and scripture, but then add the “but” to any situation, insisting that their life is different. It helped solidify my thought process on where I was going in my journal.
But you just don’t understand, God. (Yes, He does!)
But you don’t have to live with this person, God. (Yes, He does!)
But she started it, God. (It doesn’t matter!)
But this is different, God. (No, it isn’t!)
We also try to make amends with people in our life and end up saying things like:
I’m sorry, but you just don’t understand where I’m coming from.
I’m sorry, but you made me angry when you did…
I’m sorry, but you hurt me, so I did…
I’m sorry, but I’m not the one to blame here.
How can we be sorry for something if we immediately take it back by insisting whatever we did wasn’t our fault by adding a big but to our apology?
Does it matter anyway? Do you want things resolved? Do you want to be forgiven for what you did, for your role, for your participation? What someone else did is up to them to apologize for, either to you or to God. What you did is your responsibility. How you reacted or behaved afterwards is all on you…without a big but at the end.
NOTE TO SELF: There is no place for a big but in your confession or apology to God or others. Commit to working your big but off all your apologies!